Lauren Hayward

Dear me,

Hi it’s you at 23. Now I must warn you you are going to go through some serious bad times. Two of your grandparents going into hospital, being told you can’t have children naturally and losing a few friends you thought you were going to grow old and grey with. But, you are going to go through some amazing times. Finding a job you absolutely love, being baptisted in front of everyone you love and care about and keeping the real life friends that are there no matter what.

I’m going to briefly talk to you about what’s going to happen to you in about a years time. You are going to walk into a consultant’s office with mum and you are going to be told you have MRKH. A very weird condition and a condition to this day we are still trying to figure out. Your mental health is going to suffer. You’re currently going through one of the toughest year yet. We’re in lockdown and we can’t see those people who understand you, understand your weirdness or who you would normally talk to when your MRKH is putting a giant rain cloud above your head. But it will get better and you will come out the other side.

And lastly just remeber take your time. Take loads of mental photos of the people in your lives and sing and dance like no one is watching/ listening. And be kind to yourself.